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AFTER THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF

It’s February. And while many of us hit our stride in the New Year, there comes a point where you can experience burn out.

The high hopes and ambitions of January 1 may start to feel out of reach.

Yet, as a visionary, a leader, a trailblazer, you can’t afford to slow down. The wrong week of downtime could equate to six months of lost momentum.

 

SO, WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF? 

 

Here are a few ways you can put some POWER behind your new goals:

  1. Set bite sized goals.

Listen. Rome was NOT built in a day and neither are great corporations built over night. The beautiful things in life don’t happen overnight. They happen little by little. Brick by brick. Step by step.

Break down your goals into small, attainable chunks and track your progress.

Health entrepreneur and blogger, Kraig Becker said, “One of the biggest reasons people fail to stick with their resolutions is that they often set really big goals for themselves that are virtually impossible to reach. When they realize later just how difficult it will be to achieve those goals, they get overwhelmed with the daunting task ahead of them and often end up abandoning their efforts altogether.”

So, while it is great to create PUSH goals that will stretch you, the right amount of “push” mixed with the momentum success brings, can help expedite your progress.

 

  1. Check in on your progress regularly

Too many times do we write down our goals and never visit them again. We create our business strategy and then walk away, leaving behind all of the work, collaboration and mental labor we’ve contributed towards building something that matters.

Having the right metrics are critical to your confidence, your ability to move forward and your long-term success. If you are driving without a roadmap, how would you know where you were going? You need a clear vision of what success should look like.

Zip Recruiter said, “Instead of saying that you want to lose 20 pounds over the course of the year, work towards losing five pounds by the end of March. Doing this makes your entire resolution feel a little more attainable.”

 

  1. Don’t do it alone

You’ve heard the saying “Teamwork makes the dream work”! And it’s true. When you band together as a team, you can find the energy and accountability you need as a collective to keep your personal and business goals intact.

Get your team together, set goals and have everyone hold one another accountable. This can help your teams gain the speed and support needed to transcend past success and dig into something new.

An article in The New York Times said, “You may find online support groups and forums (on Facebook or not) full of people who are reaching for the same goal. But real life groups can help too. “

Apps like Slack, Asana and BaseCamp can provide the communications mechanisms your business needs to remain accountable.

 

  1. Celebrate! 

Celebrate your achievements. It can be so easy to focus on the next milestone when you accomplish a goal, but celebrating your goals trains your brain to drive any more towards future goals by providing a sort of mental payoff.

Motivate employees with an end-of-the-month party or special recognition when hitting an important goal. It only helps keep employees engaged and motivated to move forward to higher heights.

When Hope Seems to Be Distant

Oh the things unspoken regarding the cost of success. Whether it’s success in business, marriage, parenting, or a relationship, there’s a process that must be endured to receive the abundant overflow we so desperately desire. Sometimes going through circumstances and situations, we may feel like our hand is forced and our capacity to make good decisions is limited. Have you ever felt that God wanted you to do something…no, you were CERTAIN that He wanted you to do it, but things didn’t turn out the way you expected? As a matter of fact, they begin to spiral out of control…out of YOUR control. May I offer that when things spiral out of YOUR control, it’s normally an indication that God wants TOTAL control?

 

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Let’s Be Clear

The one thing that can be bad for your life as a whole is ambiguity.  There is nothing like trying to go somewhere without knowing where you’re going. Being on a journey with no destination in mind is really just taking a drive.  Unfortunately, that’s where many people are in everything they are doing, whether it’s their personal, professional or spiritual journey.

 

I remember being in a state of confusion not really knowing which way I was going in my life, nor how I was going to get there.  The odds were against me and I was a statistic of statistics.  Young mother, divorced, unstable financially, there was nothing in my life that screamed success. Making the decisions I made only guaranteed that I would end up loveless, with a poverty stricken life, producing a legacy that would follow.  Then one day, I’m not sure when it was, something happened inside of me; I realized there was hope.

 

Often times it only takes a glimmer of sunshine for me to put on my shades. It only takes a little love to realize that I’m lovable.  It only took a little hope to know that I am worth more than I was giving myself credit for.  Slowly, but surely, I began to get clear about who I was and ultimately, where I was going.  That was the beginning.  When you understand who you are, you start to understand who need to be around you and what is considered acceptable and not so acceptable.

 

When you are clear, you bring clarity to everyone else about his or her perception of you.  Now beware, this can make a few people upset and even mad, but clarity doesn’t compromise.  Clarity breeds success! If you haven’t tasted success, ask yourself how clear you’ve been about your future.

 

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Enjoy the Walk, Enjoy the Journey

The big picture of life can sometimes distract us.  A picture that is vibrantly colored and offers options beyond anything we can ever imagine is enticing.  We want it all and now would be a great time to deliver it!  Understanding that the big picture is important, it’s even more important to understand that the steps to get you there are crucial.  Read more

Success Comes with a Cost

Anyone who has had any level of success could probably tell you that there was a sacrifice that came along with it.  Although I love the thought of success, I must say that sacrifice makes me cringe.  It’s not the word or the act, but its not knowing what will be required of me.  What exactly will I need to do to walk in the promise and purpose for my life?

 

I meet many people who are like me; they definitely want to be successful, but when you start talking about the things they need to give up to get there, well, that’s another story.  In order to shift a mindset, making a drastic change in someone’s situation, there has to be total commitment and surrender.  The question always becomes, “How bad do you want it?”

 

Success looks different for everyone.  For some, it has nothing to do with money, and for others it has everything to do with it.  You have to know what your success looks like to be able to identify and celebrate it when it arrives.  If not, you’ll live your life chasing your tail feeling hopeless and empty because you never got to that place.  I’d like to suggest that you stop, breathe and reevaluate…often.  In doing so, you allow yourself to make necessary adjustments and you are able to see that the sacrifice was worth everything expended.

 

When people ask me what is my greatest fear, I tell them, “To leave this world with my assignment undone.”   With that being said, any sacrifice that I make to obtain what I see as success is worth EVERYTHING! My sacrifice goes beyond me; it’s my legacy.  Define your success, make the sacrifice and boldly live life abundantly!

 

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Pressing Past the Plateau

I love my #totalwoman attitude! My mindset is to live a healthy life personally, spiritually and professionally.  Within the perimeters of my personal living is exercise.  I didn’t realize how many women don’t like that word! LOL! There are days I wake up on time racing out the front door, ready to get my workout on, and then there are days when it takes a little longer than normal to put my feet on the floor.  Once I’m in the gym, I am committed to giving 45mins to an hour of dedicated time to my body.  I don’t have a trainer and I like to think of myself as self-motivated. Herein lies the problem.  When I am lifting weights and it starts to burn or hurt, I put them down.  I figure why put myself through such pain.  Even going through a process of losing weight, I plateaued.  I couldn’t lose anymore weight than I had already lost for about 2 weeks.  I quickly realized I had to do something different. I had to switch it up!  So I spoke with someone who had a little more experience in the weight room.  They told me that when I started to feel the pain and burn, it was an indication that my muscles were being stretched and getting the workout they need to become stronger.  Well, why didn’t someone say that at the beginning?!! ☺

 

 

As we are pushing, pursuing our hopes, dreams and calling it gets painful, tiring and starts to burn, so we decide to stop.  Sometimes we say, “Maybe it’s really not for me” or “Maybe it’s just not my time” when the truth is, you have to keep pressing to see the result.  I’ve read about so many that have pushed and pressed, then quit only to find that they were “3 feet from gold” (which is an amazing book by the way).

 

 

What I love about working out is seeing the results.  No, they don’t happen overnight, but I do know that I am stronger and my endurance is longer because of it.  You may not be where you want to be in life right now, but know that if you are consistent, you become stronger and your endurance becomes longer.  Maybe like me, you feel like you’ve plateaued.  If that’s the case, it’s time to do something different.  You may need a coach (hint, hint), supplements or a different regimen.  Whatever it is, recognize that something has to change and it starts with you!  Don’t settle for less, when greater is only arms length away!

 

 

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Things I learned my first year of being an entrepreneur…FULL-TIME:

  1. Trust God
  2. Know that it’s God and not you
  3. Have a sensitive ear
  4. Don’t allow your feelings to dictate the success of your day
  5. Laziness is not an option if you want to eat
  6. Living the dream costs (it is a sacrifice)
  7. Always prioritize
  8. Always compartmentalize
  9. Control what you allow into your space
  10. Write everything down
  11. Embrace where you are to appreciate where you’re going
  12. Choose your friends carefully.  Surrounding yourself with “yes people” only makes you weak
  13. Use your energy wisely
  14. Take responsibility for the decisions you make
  15. Don’t use social media to express your hurts, pains or disappointments; that’s what friends, counselors and pastors are for
  16. Realize that you are a one-of-a-kind original.  People may be doing what you do, but everyone’s not called to do it
  17. Take risk even when scared, often
  18. Don’t be afraid to be wrong
  19. Always be a student
  20. Always give back (even when no one else recognizes it)
  21. Prepare like you believe what you’re praying for will happen
  22. Believe in yourself when nobody else does
  23. Be resilient
  24. Being healthy is a necessity, not an option
  25. Your family never gets what’s left over, they deserve to get the best of you

 

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The Importance of Compartmentalizing

In our everyday lives there are things that are pressing and then things that are not so much. When we put everything in our ‘pressing’ box, it then becomes a priority, leaving us stressed and ultimately burned out.   I want to give you 3 ways to compartmentalize, giving yourself permission to rest and allowing yourself the chance to work efficiently and effectively.

 

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Be Intentional About Your NOW

As the months are quickly passing, there’s a very real feeling that shifts us back into the mode of comfortability.  This is around the time when you start walking by your vision boards as if they aren’t there and when you start dismissing your goals because they seem out of reach.  I want to challenge you today to be intentional about your perseverance.  Be intentional about making the goals you have set before you a reality.  As much as our society dictates that we can have what we want when we want it, the truth is, it takes time.  There’s work involved to accomplish your goals, but half of the battle is your mindset. What do you need to do to ensure that your mindset stays aligned with goals?

 

  1. Look at it! Place your vision board and goals in an area where they can be seen EVERY SINGLE DAY!  Mine are on my closet door; I know I have to get into my closet to get clothes EVERYDAY, so there it is.
  2. Speak what you expect.  “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Proverbs 18:21 Most of us don’t accomplish what we want to accomplish because we’ve killed our dream with our words before it even had the chance to make it out of our mouths.  Watch your thoughts, they govern your mouth!
  3. Attend events that support your vision.  I cannot tell you how many opportunities there are for events, online, conference calls and webinars for you to get the support and development you need.  When you show up, it shows how serious you are about your next.
  4. Feed yourself.  If you want to be successful at anything, find books and podcast that will help you get there.  Absolutely nothing grows unless you feed it.  You are simply what you eat!
  5. Evaluate your position.  Every now and again you will need to step back and tweak.  Don’t be intimidated by that process!  Do what you need to do to ensure that you are moving.   Don’t allow stumbling blocks to stop your progress.  Keep it moving!

 

There is no doubt that life will happen.  What makes the difference is how you handle it.  Don’t allow circumstances to take you out.  Be intentional about your NOW because it will affect your later (future).

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

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The Importance of Self-Care

I am a recovering addict of busyness.  The high of running around like a chicken with my head cut off just empowered me…or so I thought.  Everyday is a struggle for many women to sit and think in silence.  Normally, if our homes are quiet, it’s because we think the children are somewhere doing something they are not supposed to be doing.  We become validated by our busyness and qualified to be the mother of all mothers and the woman who has it all.  Can I challenge that today?  Can I tell you that busyness does not validate who you are, but rather affirms your need to feel needed.  I believe the word for that is codependent.

 

We live in a society that makes millions of dollars by stimulating our brains constantly.  We even find ourselves passing down this disease of busyness by keeping our children busy so that they can stay out of trouble.  Now, let me say this, although I am a fan of extra curricular activities, as my child is in one, I am also a fan of moderation and keeping things in perspective. Long gone are the days of running from one event to another, while feeding my child chicken nuggets on the run – although in some cases this must be acceptable!  I am validated and affirmed by not only managing my time, but most of all, by managing me.

 

While caring for family and anyone who has value in your life is important, maintaining care for yourself is even more so.  I want to encourage all women who are mothers, wives, single, entrepreneurs, women in business, and stay at home moms alike to find time for you.  What we often don’t realize is when this need [self-care] is dismissed as being “selfish”, our families, friends and love ones are the ones who suffer.  Here are a few things you can do to help take care of YOU:

 

  1. Nap – They are not just for kids.
  2. Sit in silence – Thinking about nothing can be refreshing.
  3. Turn off your cell phone – (Gasp!) Yes, you can actually turn it off and on!
  4. Say “No” – This two letter word can be the most powerful word you ever learn to speak.
  5. Breathe deeply – Not the one you do when people have gotten on your last nerve, but the one that brings solace.

 

As you read these 5 things, it’s important to note that they are all free!  They all require one thing, the effort of the woman reading this blog.  Take time for you, the people who are around you will appreciate you for it.

 

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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