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AFTER THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF

It’s February. And while many of us hit our stride in the New Year, there comes a point where you can experience burn out.

The high hopes and ambitions of January 1 may start to feel out of reach.

Yet, as a visionary, a leader, a trailblazer, you can’t afford to slow down. The wrong week of downtime could equate to six months of lost momentum.

 

SO, WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF? 

 

Here are a few ways you can put some POWER behind your new goals:

  1. Set bite sized goals.

Listen. Rome was NOT built in a day and neither are great corporations built over night. The beautiful things in life don’t happen overnight. They happen little by little. Brick by brick. Step by step.

Break down your goals into small, attainable chunks and track your progress.

Health entrepreneur and blogger, Kraig Becker said, “One of the biggest reasons people fail to stick with their resolutions is that they often set really big goals for themselves that are virtually impossible to reach. When they realize later just how difficult it will be to achieve those goals, they get overwhelmed with the daunting task ahead of them and often end up abandoning their efforts altogether.”

So, while it is great to create PUSH goals that will stretch you, the right amount of “push” mixed with the momentum success brings, can help expedite your progress.

 

  1. Check in on your progress regularly

Too many times do we write down our goals and never visit them again. We create our business strategy and then walk away, leaving behind all of the work, collaboration and mental labor we’ve contributed towards building something that matters.

Having the right metrics are critical to your confidence, your ability to move forward and your long-term success. If you are driving without a roadmap, how would you know where you were going? You need a clear vision of what success should look like.

Zip Recruiter said, “Instead of saying that you want to lose 20 pounds over the course of the year, work towards losing five pounds by the end of March. Doing this makes your entire resolution feel a little more attainable.”

 

  1. Don’t do it alone

You’ve heard the saying “Teamwork makes the dream work”! And it’s true. When you band together as a team, you can find the energy and accountability you need as a collective to keep your personal and business goals intact.

Get your team together, set goals and have everyone hold one another accountable. This can help your teams gain the speed and support needed to transcend past success and dig into something new.

An article in The New York Times said, “You may find online support groups and forums (on Facebook or not) full of people who are reaching for the same goal. But real life groups can help too. “

Apps like Slack, Asana and BaseCamp can provide the communications mechanisms your business needs to remain accountable.

 

  1. Celebrate! 

Celebrate your achievements. It can be so easy to focus on the next milestone when you accomplish a goal, but celebrating your goals trains your brain to drive any more towards future goals by providing a sort of mental payoff.

Motivate employees with an end-of-the-month party or special recognition when hitting an important goal. It only helps keep employees engaged and motivated to move forward to higher heights.

5 Reasons You Can’t Give Up on Your Dreams!

The moment you start settling is the moment compromise sets in.  It can be a difficult road when you know you are supposed to be somewhere in life and just can’t seem to get there; can’t get breakthrough.  There are moments when it seems easier to just quit.  Think about this:

 

8 out of 10 people give up in pursing their dreams

 

That means that only 2 people stayed in the fight.  Only 2 people thought it was worth aggressively pursuing.  Only 2 people realized what was at stake.  I want to give you 5 reasons why you can’t give up.  Not reasons why you shouldn’t, but reasons why you can’t.  Some people will read this and say, “I already know that”, some will say, “Well she just doesn’t know about my that” and some will say, “That’s it!”  Which one are you?

 

  1. You owe it to God – He gave you everything you have to get what you need.
  2. You owe it to yourself – Stop being so hard on yourself that you can’t move from your past without carrying it into your future
  3. You owe it to your family – not just your immediate family, but the legacy/generation that comes after you
  4. You owe it to the people who haven’t made it where you are – Everybody needs somebody to teach them; someone who took the risk and didn’t allow fear to hold them back
  5. You owe it to the people who need you where you’re going – The top is a lonely place.  Someone who is already there needs to pour into you what they have so that their legacy will continue.  Don’t try to beat them, join them!

 

I heard Doreen Rainey say something the other day that really settled in me.  She said, “If you want a breakthrough, you’ve got to be willing to breakdown.”  Sounds simple enough, but I realized how much I had been trying to stay built up because  I thought breaking down was a sign of weakness.  Let me help you, breaking down is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength!

 

When you recognize that your dreams are not a credit, but a debt owed, you will make whatever sacrifices necessary to pay them off!

 

BE BOLD, BE COURAGEOUS, DREAM BIG and LIVE IT!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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Transitions

(From a radio interview on Stilettos n Convos with Miss Lee)

 

My husband and I had such an awesome time interviewing on Stilettos n Convos with Miss Lee earlier this week that I thought I’d share a few continued points regarding transition.

Transition is one of those words that you either hate or embrace.  It can mean there’s something awesome on the other side of this obstacle or it can mean the opposite.  It’s all about perspective.  There are three types of transitions that I want to highlight:

 

  1. Forced Transitions [as mentioned on the show] – This is when something drastic happens (unexpected job loss, pregnancy, spouse leaves you). Forced transitions put you in a place that pressures you to make quick decisions.  This is probably the least comfortable transition, but it’s the most realistic and probable one.  It forces us to think reactively instead of proactively.  A way to deal with forced transition is to stop, breathe, and pray.  Making important decisions in the chaotic and distressed states can and will do more harm than good.  When you step away from it for a minute to center yourself, you have a clearer mind and can ensure that your response isn’t dictated by emotions.  It also strengthens your need and trust of the Holy Spirit. Read more

When Opportunity Knocks

 

I am guilty of wanting progress and success to happen rather quickly…like as soon as I ask for it.  As I get older and experience life more, I am thankful that it doesn’t quite work like that.  There are times when I sit back and realize that if I would’ve gotten “that” when I asked for it, I probably wouldn’t have it now because of my lack of experience and maturity to handle it.

 

When we ask for more of something, or even for a situation to change, we must be ready for it, mentally, spiritually, and physically.  Have you ever prayed that someone (spouse, co-worker, boss, friend) would change, and then when they did, you began to question their motives? I am convinced that sometimes when opportunity knocks and prayers are answered, we don’t really know what to do with it.  We are caught off guard wondering whether we should answer it or just look at it through the peephole. Read more

Make the Adjustment

 

When my youngest daughter began to grow up and out of clothes, I noticed that we were having a little problem; her waist was not growing with her legs, making it difficult for her pants to stay up without a belt.  Imagine a 3-4 year old having to finagle a belt when needing to use the potty…not!  Then, this amazing person created an elastic band that attaches to the waist of pants; it’s called an adjustable waist.  This invention was awesome! It allowed me to purchase jeans that were long enough, and would still provide a great fit for her waist.

 

While considering the function of the adjustable waist, I concluded that I must be willing to make adjustments in my own life, business, and relationships.  If we allow life to throw us so far off course that it destroys our plan(s) and purpose, we have not embraced the opportunity to become adjustable. More than that, we have missed an opportunity for growth. Everything may not fit the way you want it, but when you make a few adjustments, get rid of old habits, become more disciplined in your finances, make better decisions with the management of your time, you’ll see that it refocuses you. It will take you back to a process that will fit. Read more

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I want to take time to encourage you to find the guts to do it again!  Find the thing that you’ve been called to and regardless of where you are right now, do it again. When we step out on faith in any situation, it is difficult to plan where the next will come from.   Will the customers come back?  Will someone reorder?  What if I totally disappoint this person?  These are all likely ponderings, but they should not deter us from trying.   Read more

Strange Living

I recently heard about the lifestyle of a salmon and was totally amazed. I did not know that a salmon swims upstream (opposite the current) to survive. To my surprise this creature isn’t one that looks at other fish and decides he wants to turn around and swim the way everyone else is swimming; besides, that’s what he should do right?  He should go with the flow, go with the way everyone else is doing it and maybe, just maybe he’ll be “cool” or “in style”! The truth is, if this fish made the decision to swim with the other fish, he’d die.

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