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AFTER THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF

It’s February. And while many of us hit our stride in the New Year, there comes a point where you can experience burn out.

The high hopes and ambitions of January 1 may start to feel out of reach.

Yet, as a visionary, a leader, a trailblazer, you can’t afford to slow down. The wrong week of downtime could equate to six months of lost momentum.

 

SO, WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF? 

 

Here are a few ways you can put some POWER behind your new goals:

  1. Set bite sized goals.

Listen. Rome was NOT built in a day and neither are great corporations built over night. The beautiful things in life don’t happen overnight. They happen little by little. Brick by brick. Step by step.

Break down your goals into small, attainable chunks and track your progress.

Health entrepreneur and blogger, Kraig Becker said, “One of the biggest reasons people fail to stick with their resolutions is that they often set really big goals for themselves that are virtually impossible to reach. When they realize later just how difficult it will be to achieve those goals, they get overwhelmed with the daunting task ahead of them and often end up abandoning their efforts altogether.”

So, while it is great to create PUSH goals that will stretch you, the right amount of “push” mixed with the momentum success brings, can help expedite your progress.

 

  1. Check in on your progress regularly

Too many times do we write down our goals and never visit them again. We create our business strategy and then walk away, leaving behind all of the work, collaboration and mental labor we’ve contributed towards building something that matters.

Having the right metrics are critical to your confidence, your ability to move forward and your long-term success. If you are driving without a roadmap, how would you know where you were going? You need a clear vision of what success should look like.

Zip Recruiter said, “Instead of saying that you want to lose 20 pounds over the course of the year, work towards losing five pounds by the end of March. Doing this makes your entire resolution feel a little more attainable.”

 

  1. Don’t do it alone

You’ve heard the saying “Teamwork makes the dream work”! And it’s true. When you band together as a team, you can find the energy and accountability you need as a collective to keep your personal and business goals intact.

Get your team together, set goals and have everyone hold one another accountable. This can help your teams gain the speed and support needed to transcend past success and dig into something new.

An article in The New York Times said, “You may find online support groups and forums (on Facebook or not) full of people who are reaching for the same goal. But real life groups can help too. “

Apps like Slack, Asana and BaseCamp can provide the communications mechanisms your business needs to remain accountable.

 

  1. Celebrate! 

Celebrate your achievements. It can be so easy to focus on the next milestone when you accomplish a goal, but celebrating your goals trains your brain to drive any more towards future goals by providing a sort of mental payoff.

Motivate employees with an end-of-the-month party or special recognition when hitting an important goal. It only helps keep employees engaged and motivated to move forward to higher heights.

I Should Have Given Up…

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I realized that I could have, probably should have given up, but then I made the decision not to. Actually, I refused the option.  I heard a pastor say that when you’re called to something or someone, giving up is not an option.

 

There’s no doubt that with life comes heartaches, failures, and sometimes defeat, but the determining factor is what you do with it, how you respond to it. Understanding that from the beginning, helps to eliminate the things that can sometimes be major distractions.

 

We must all be clear that there is a constant battle between our past, (sometimes our present) and our destiny; between being mediocre, good, and great;  We are pulled into what we were rather than what we are destined to become. It’s easy to turn around and go back to what we are familiar with, the comfort zone.  Success and excellence isn’t hard, it’s just that mediocrity is easier.  Being a person of integrity and character isn’t that hard, it’s just that cutting corners and telling “white lies” is easier. The problem with that is, when we go for what’s comfortable and what’s easier we really don’t pay attention to the things it has attached to it; such as, depression, oppression, mediocrity and lack. All we see is the fact that we don’t have to put as much effort into that place.

 

I remember growing up in a place that I thought was pretty awesome. Everyone around me seemed to be happy, with occasional depression and frustration, but hey, they were okay after a while. I grew up thinking that this was life, the way it should be, until I began to go outside of my normal surroundings. You see, once exposed to different people, places, and things I began to see that there was more. I began to understand that my normal wasn’t everyone’s normal. I set out to do some things that challenged me to have a fresh perspective of life. I set out to make friends in places that I wouldn’t normally make them. I began to eat in places that I wouldn’t normally frequent. I say all of this to help you to see that in order to get something different, you’ve got to do something different…you’ve got to shift your mindset and your thinking and align it with the principles of God’s Word. Opportunities are unlimited, but it’s your decision to maximize your moment and be ready when opportunity meets preparation.

 

Don’t allow your current or past situation to make the decision for you. The power is yours…TAKE IT BACK!

 

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Coloring Outside the Lines

Remember how important it was to color within the lines when we were children?  I can remember tracing my outside lines to ensure my pictures had even more definition around the perimeter.  Within the lines was not just the rule of the coloring activity; little did I know, it would teach me how to live a confined life. Anything that made me uncomfortable was considered coloring outside the lines and that was unacceptable.

 

Growing older and experiencing life soon taught me that staying within the lines was only for those who wanted to play it safe.  The lines that I traced to make my outside lines more defined only represented my need to ensure I was safe – nothing in, nothing out.  I soon realized that this was not the way I was designed to live (in comfort and within limits), so slowly I began color freely.

 

Maybe your life looks like this.  Maybe you’re trying so hard to color within the confines of the lines that you’ve become bored and restrained, not tapping into the creative side of who you are.  Maybe you’ve been trapped so long that you don’t know were to start. Here are some ideas:

 

  1. Break out of the monotony.  Doing the same things over and over foster routine, but it can also allow you to be so comfortable that you ignore signs of the necessity to break out of the ordinary.  Take a different route home, buy some fresh flowers for your desk, get a new hairstyle…whatever it is, make it different and make it fun!
  2. Try new things.  Start small; a new restaurant, something new on the menu, a Grand Opening of a retail store.  If you don’t change your palette, you become stuck and life passes you by with more to it than you’ve been willing to discover.  Try SOMETHING new, and even if you don’t like it, it’s okay because your portfolio has now been expanded and you have more to share with others.
  3. Smile.  This can be a big one for most because life has worn you down. Staying within the lines tells you to only smile at what makes you happy, coloring outside the lines says I smile because whatever my situation is, I will be happy. This simple action can turn a world right side up at any given moment.

 

Don’t think of your borderless canvas as messy, think of it as an opportunity to experience freedom! Art is meant to be an expression, EXPRESS! Go beyond where you are and allow yourself to fly!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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How to Refocus in Chaos

It’s no secret that the pull for our attention in our families, our careers and the media is overwhelming. I would even venture to say that it could be chaotic. Most of the time, we suffer the results of fatigue, stress, mental breakdown, sickness, disease, marital problems, wayward children and other things that we prefer not to accept. Before we know it, these things become our reality and we now have to face the fact that our lives are out of control. Unfortunately, we get to this point before we recognize we must do something.

 

I speak to women on different occasions that are on overload. I remember being one of them. I remember doing everything and trying to be everywhere and actually feeling guilty when I couldn’t. I remember feeling like I had control when I really didn’t. I had convinced myself that I had given my life and schedule to God but I still had a tight grip on it. I made decisions that were unhealthy and unbalanced. By the time I had realized this is where I was, everything began to spiral.

 

One thing I have always taken pleasure in is order. The funny thing is, my life was chaotic and lacking order. I didn’t know how to say “No” and I accepted everything people made me feel guilty for not accepting. When my life began to quickly show results of the mayhem I had warmly embraced, I decided that something was going to change. I didn’t say something had to change, I said something was going to change!

 

There is power in pulling back, shutting it down and regrouping. There is power in unplugging from media, cell phones and computers and getting your life together. There is power in having family meetings and saying, “I know what I’ve accepted in the past, but today is a new day!” The problem becomes, staying focused and keeping order. This cannot be a one-time activity, but must be on going. You must be sensitive enough to know when your life is starting to shift in the wrong direction. It cannot be ignored.

 

In order to refocus, there are a lot of things that can be listed, but I will give you a few to start with:

 

  1. Take Care of Yourself – Self-care for women is very difficult because of our desire to take care of others first. We tend to feel guilty for getting a pedicure, massage, sitting quietly, and getting ice cream without the children or husband. Snap out of it! You can’t give them the best you if you’re torn down.
  2. Take Time to Quiet Yourself – There’s so much going on around us to distract us, we must make a demand on ourselves and our minds to sit in quietness and be refreshed.
  3. Take Time to Listen to Yourself – Don’t ignore what your body is saying. If it’s screaming, “I NEED REST!”, then rest. If it’s saying, “I am sick”, see a doctor and stop pushing it to keep going. If there’s something off and you’re not your normal happy jolly self, make a decision to do something about it and stop ignoring it, especially when it’s been weeks since you’ve smiled. Don’t allow yourself to continue functioning without listening to what your body is saying.

 

I could go on, but let’s focus on these three and master them. Please realize that these things are not one-time fixers, they are on-going maintenance. Make the decision today that living in chaos will not be your norm, and you will refocus so that you can live your life abundantly!

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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Exceptional Presence

There is something to be said about a woman who can enter a room and command the atmosphere.  There’s even more to be said when she opens her mouth and speaks with authority.  We can’t stop talking even after she leaves because she has not only set the atmosphere and spoken with wisdom, but she has left an imprint on everyone who was in her presence.  This is a woman with an exceptional presence. Most people will think that it has something to do with her outer appearance, and although that’s true to an extent, it’s only part of the whole.

I’d like to offer three things that I believe are a huge factor in having an exceptional presence!

 

  1. Take notice of who’s around you – compliment a look, speak to their child, say something kind to brighten their day!  There’s so much negativity going on in the world today, sometimes people just need a good word of hope.
  2. Take time to correct – when something isn’t right, don’t be afraid to say it; be sure to say it with grace and humility.  Correction requires boldness, but it also requires sensitivity to the situation and the atmosphere.  No one wants to be associated with the angry woman with a chip on her shoulder. When done properly, correction inevitably produces growth.
  3. Take time to listen – this is a hard one when you have a good defensive statement prepared! My girlfriends and I are guilty of talking over one another as we move from one subject to the next, without smooth transition points.  In our excitement to get our words in (partially so we won’t forget them), we must learn to exercise our listening skills.  Good talkers are a dime a dozen, great listeners are a rarity.

 

 

Exercising these three ideas may be a little difficult at first, but when you take it piece by piece and become intentional, it becomes a part of who you are.  When you intentionally stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone, you surpass being great and open yourself up to being EXCEPTIONAL!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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5 Reasons You Can’t Give Up on Your Dreams!

The moment you start settling is the moment compromise sets in.  It can be a difficult road when you know you are supposed to be somewhere in life and just can’t seem to get there; can’t get breakthrough.  There are moments when it seems easier to just quit.  Think about this:

 

8 out of 10 people give up in pursing their dreams

 

That means that only 2 people stayed in the fight.  Only 2 people thought it was worth aggressively pursuing.  Only 2 people realized what was at stake.  I want to give you 5 reasons why you can’t give up.  Not reasons why you shouldn’t, but reasons why you can’t.  Some people will read this and say, “I already know that”, some will say, “Well she just doesn’t know about my that” and some will say, “That’s it!”  Which one are you?

 

  1. You owe it to God – He gave you everything you have to get what you need.
  2. You owe it to yourself – Stop being so hard on yourself that you can’t move from your past without carrying it into your future
  3. You owe it to your family – not just your immediate family, but the legacy/generation that comes after you
  4. You owe it to the people who haven’t made it where you are – Everybody needs somebody to teach them; someone who took the risk and didn’t allow fear to hold them back
  5. You owe it to the people who need you where you’re going – The top is a lonely place.  Someone who is already there needs to pour into you what they have so that their legacy will continue.  Don’t try to beat them, join them!

 

I heard Doreen Rainey say something the other day that really settled in me.  She said, “If you want a breakthrough, you’ve got to be willing to breakdown.”  Sounds simple enough, but I realized how much I had been trying to stay built up because  I thought breaking down was a sign of weakness.  Let me help you, breaking down is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength!

 

When you recognize that your dreams are not a credit, but a debt owed, you will make whatever sacrifices necessary to pay them off!

 

BE BOLD, BE COURAGEOUS, DREAM BIG and LIVE IT!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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Understanding the Seasons

A couple of months ago, I attended a conference and the speaker said something that I will not forget.  He said, “Every season is not harvest season.”  That very simple sentence was so impactful!  It’s as if I could suddenly understand everything that was going on in my life through this one sentence.  I, like so many others, had resolved that if something wasn’t happening within the next 24hrs as a result to what I had done the day before, I had failed.  This mindset is accepted in a number of areas including addictions, weight loss and healing.  Though we would like to convince ourselves that what we sow, we will reap in the same hour, it doesn’t exactly happen that way.

 

There are moments when you will feel as an entrepreneur, as a businesswoman, as a mother, as a wife, that your good enough is not enough.  You’ll feel like you are spinning your wheels going in a complete circle and not seeing anything close to your desired results.  Do you stop?  Do you switch and do something else?  Do you keep moving?  Well, stopping should never be an option; only tweaking and rebuilding.  Doing something else never solves the problem if you haven’t dealt with the common denominator – you.  Whether you’re studying for an accreditation exam or certifying your business in its industry, WORK is always behind the process.

 

Always know whether you are cultivating or planting.  When you’re cultivating, you are preparing land.  You are educating yourself, attending workshops, seminars, and conferences to sharpen your skillset.  Although these things are important for this season, it is something that should be happening on a continual basis.  Planting means you are sowing.  You are putting seeds in the ground expecting something to come back to you.  You are probably wondering if these seasons can happen simultaneously.  Absolutely!  You just have to be wise enough to identify which one you are in.

 

Harvest time is the time that we all look forward to!  It’s the time when you appreciate everything you’ve been doing, understanding that it was not in vain.  The feelings of wanting to give up have no space here as you are open and ready to receive.  What most people don’t mention is that what you do in cultivating and planting seasons, whether good or bad, you will reap.  The season changes, the principle does not.

 

Whichever season you are in, I want to encourage you to recognize it, embrace it and use your energy to be effective in it.  You will soon understand that the bitter cold of winter doesn’t last forever, the scorching heat of summer must come to an end, the foliage of fall soon blows away and the beauty of spring is only temporary.  Whether you want them to happen or not, they will happen, the question is, how will you prepare?

 

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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Excellence Uncompromised

In today’s society, it is easy to become a mediocre person.  Sometimes there’s even ridicule when a person goes over and beyond what everyone around them is doing.  They are said to be “brown nosing” or “kissing up”. Let’s face it, it can be challenging to truly stand out and be different.  If you’re not going in the same direction everyone else is, you are considered more of an outcast than anything. Saying words like, “That’s good enough”, “It’ll do” and “Oh well, they’ll just have to accept this” can lead to a drastic mental shift. You start believing this in not only one situation but it becomes acceptable in others; it begins to overflow.

 

Today is the day I give you permission to be uncompromising.  I give you permission to stand when no one else is standing, to believe when no one else will, to fight when every one else has fallen back.  This is excellence uncompromised.  Everyone doesn’t have the strength or character to go against the grain.  Just as you have purposed in yourself to create a better and more productive life, so you will have if you don’t compromise.

 

When excellence is a part of who you are, there’s something inside of you that can’t seem to rest with mediocrity.  There’s something inside of you that becomes restless when you hear the words above; you just can’t seem to settle.  Excellence doesn’t operate in arrogant, full of “I told you so” language, but excellence has a presence in a quiet room. Excellence is molded and perfected behind closed doors and shows up prepared and is recognized in public.

 

It only takes one moment, one response, one answer and one action to change the game.  Are you willing to step out of the ordinary into the extraordinary?  Don’t be mediocre. Live in excellence…uncompromised.  Let everything you do and every area of your life be saturated in excellence and you will enjoy the fruit it produces!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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The Pleasure of Comfortability…Not So Much

I have to honestly admit, when I’m in my comfort zone, it is absolutely the best place ever.  It’s my place of refuge and solace. It’s the place where there is no wrong and everything is good. I love doing the things that support my comfortability as well. Things such as, not pushing myself too hard when an opportunity arises and I have to go above and beyond my norm to pay for registration or make arrangements for transportation. Although it may be something new and exciting, learning something new can intimidate me. I mean, what if I can’t get it? I am perfectly okay if someone tells me “No” because maybe it just wasn’t meant to be or it’s just not my time. I am so used to others doing well and better than me, that I’ve come to grips with the fact that God just doesn’t want me to live an abundant life. Everything around me is crazy, but I just accept it as my normal because that’s what I’m use to. As a matter of fact, things have been like they are for so long in my life, I don’t know what “stretching myself” means. I have just accepted who I am. This is just me and no one should try to change me because I’ve been like this forever!

 

Have you ever found yourself in this place of comfortability? It’s actually conformability. It’s when you have become so engrained with your situation and culture around you that you’ve become a part of it. It’s when you’ve accepted the status quo and instead of working to achieve, you’ve agreed to stay in the same situation with nothing to gain. Let’s play the “what if” game:
What if you got up out of the bed and did something?
What if you learned a skill or trade that you thought you could never learn?
What if you sacrificed and went to that conference that you said you couldn’t afford?
What if you decided that you were going to do something different so you accepted the job out of state?
What if you took the risk and bought the house, car, office building that you’ve been waiting for for years?
What if you decided to go ahead and get married to the man that wants to do right by you and who loves you with everything he has?
What if you took that college course to get closer to getting your degree?
What if you took a moment to sponsor a child whether local or overseas?
What if you said “yes” to an opportunity that you would have otherwise said “no” to.
What if you made the decision that you were going to live your life and LOVE it!

 

I could have gone on with example after example of how we’ve “conformed” instead of “transformed”. You see, until our thoughts are lined up with our actions, nothing else matters. Is what you are comfortable with worth losing your victory? Comfort is compromise and wherever you compromise, you become stagnant. Is there any pleasure in staying comfortable? Not so much!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach, and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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