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AFTER THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF

It’s February. And while many of us hit our stride in the New Year, there comes a point where you can experience burn out.

The high hopes and ambitions of January 1 may start to feel out of reach.

Yet, as a visionary, a leader, a trailblazer, you can’t afford to slow down. The wrong week of downtime could equate to six months of lost momentum.

 

SO, WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF? 

 

Here are a few ways you can put some POWER behind your new goals:

  1. Set bite sized goals.

Listen. Rome was NOT built in a day and neither are great corporations built over night. The beautiful things in life don’t happen overnight. They happen little by little. Brick by brick. Step by step.

Break down your goals into small, attainable chunks and track your progress.

Health entrepreneur and blogger, Kraig Becker said, “One of the biggest reasons people fail to stick with their resolutions is that they often set really big goals for themselves that are virtually impossible to reach. When they realize later just how difficult it will be to achieve those goals, they get overwhelmed with the daunting task ahead of them and often end up abandoning their efforts altogether.”

So, while it is great to create PUSH goals that will stretch you, the right amount of “push” mixed with the momentum success brings, can help expedite your progress.

 

  1. Check in on your progress regularly

Too many times do we write down our goals and never visit them again. We create our business strategy and then walk away, leaving behind all of the work, collaboration and mental labor we’ve contributed towards building something that matters.

Having the right metrics are critical to your confidence, your ability to move forward and your long-term success. If you are driving without a roadmap, how would you know where you were going? You need a clear vision of what success should look like.

Zip Recruiter said, “Instead of saying that you want to lose 20 pounds over the course of the year, work towards losing five pounds by the end of March. Doing this makes your entire resolution feel a little more attainable.”

 

  1. Don’t do it alone

You’ve heard the saying “Teamwork makes the dream work”! And it’s true. When you band together as a team, you can find the energy and accountability you need as a collective to keep your personal and business goals intact.

Get your team together, set goals and have everyone hold one another accountable. This can help your teams gain the speed and support needed to transcend past success and dig into something new.

An article in The New York Times said, “You may find online support groups and forums (on Facebook or not) full of people who are reaching for the same goal. But real life groups can help too. “

Apps like Slack, Asana and BaseCamp can provide the communications mechanisms your business needs to remain accountable.

 

  1. Celebrate! 

Celebrate your achievements. It can be so easy to focus on the next milestone when you accomplish a goal, but celebrating your goals trains your brain to drive any more towards future goals by providing a sort of mental payoff.

Motivate employees with an end-of-the-month party or special recognition when hitting an important goal. It only helps keep employees engaged and motivated to move forward to higher heights.

The Law of Expectation

If I sow, I reap. If I give, it will be given to me. If I knock, the door will be opened. These are all conditional statements that are used in our everyday lives as we work diligently to get out equal or more than we put in. It’s the law of expectation. Without prompting, l’ve grown accustomed to it. It wasn’t spoken of, it wasn’t intentionally or strategically taught, no one told me what was supposed to happen, I just expected it! So what happens when people don’t get the memo? What happens when the law is broken?

 

Some of us who have experienced the violation of this lawbreaker feel violated and quite disappointed. This disappointment carries over into areas of our lives where we begin to either lower our expectations or have none at all. Are expectations a bad thing? ABSOLUTELY NOT! What makes expectations challenging are when they are unspoken.

 

As I stated earlier, there were some things in my life that I just expected. Notice I said things, not people. You see, when we put expectations on people assuming that they should know what we need and how we need it, we lose every…single…time. This happens all the time in relationships. Lisa thought John should know what she likes, so when John comes in with flowers instead of an Edible Arrangement, the whole week shuts down! Are you guilty? Has this happened to you?

 

I sometimes get the question, “Do I need to repeat my expectations all time?” My answer, “As long as it takes the person to get it.” Expectations can be scary only when we shut ourselves down and are not open to hearing what is being said. Let’s be clear, expectations, especially in relationships, are for you, not the other person.

 

Has a relationship been damaged or bruised because of an unspoken expectation? If so, what can you do to communicate it effectively?

 

 

 

 

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When Hope Seems to Be Distant

Oh the things unspoken regarding the cost of success. Whether it’s success in business, marriage, parenting, or a relationship, there’s a process that must be endured to receive the abundant overflow we so desperately desire. Sometimes going through circumstances and situations, we may feel like our hand is forced and our capacity to make good decisions is limited. Have you ever felt that God wanted you to do something…no, you were CERTAIN that He wanted you to do it, but things didn’t turn out the way you expected? As a matter of fact, they begin to spiral out of control…out of YOUR control. May I offer that when things spiral out of YOUR control, it’s normally an indication that God wants TOTAL control?

 

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Be Intentional About Your NOW

As the months are quickly passing, there’s a very real feeling that shifts us back into the mode of comfortability.  This is around the time when you start walking by your vision boards as if they aren’t there and when you start dismissing your goals because they seem out of reach.  I want to challenge you today to be intentional about your perseverance.  Be intentional about making the goals you have set before you a reality.  As much as our society dictates that we can have what we want when we want it, the truth is, it takes time.  There’s work involved to accomplish your goals, but half of the battle is your mindset. What do you need to do to ensure that your mindset stays aligned with goals?

 

  1. Look at it! Place your vision board and goals in an area where they can be seen EVERY SINGLE DAY!  Mine are on my closet door; I know I have to get into my closet to get clothes EVERYDAY, so there it is.
  2. Speak what you expect.  “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Proverbs 18:21 Most of us don’t accomplish what we want to accomplish because we’ve killed our dream with our words before it even had the chance to make it out of our mouths.  Watch your thoughts, they govern your mouth!
  3. Attend events that support your vision.  I cannot tell you how many opportunities there are for events, online, conference calls and webinars for you to get the support and development you need.  When you show up, it shows how serious you are about your next.
  4. Feed yourself.  If you want to be successful at anything, find books and podcast that will help you get there.  Absolutely nothing grows unless you feed it.  You are simply what you eat!
  5. Evaluate your position.  Every now and again you will need to step back and tweak.  Don’t be intimidated by that process!  Do what you need to do to ensure that you are moving.   Don’t allow stumbling blocks to stop your progress.  Keep it moving!

 

There is no doubt that life will happen.  What makes the difference is how you handle it.  Don’t allow circumstances to take you out.  Be intentional about your NOW because it will affect your later (future).

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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3 Ways to Overcome the Desire to Give Up!

One of the easiest things to do in life is to give up. Let’s face it, if something is not going the way we anticipated it to go, it’s easier to just walk away.  It’s why divorce rates are at an all-time high, why some parents chose to walk away from children and why some are overtaken by sickness and disease.  It’s just easier to give up than to fight.

 

Then there are those of us who use the tug of war for our benefit.  What makes us fight for what we want?  What makes us stand even when we don’t want to?  What makes us gird up for battle at the most terrifying moments of our lives?  Two words, a decision. Read more

5 Ways To Give Up On Your Vision

1. Listen to people who don’t have one.

You gotta love people who you invite to your pity party and they bring drinks!  If you continue to engage with people who don’t have anything, including vision, you may as well call it quits.  If people around me begin talking about a business idea, I jump into coaching mode and start to ask questions to push them to do it!  If you don’t have anyone that makes your “baby leap” when you share your idea, it is time to move on!

 

2. Don’t write anything down.

If you don’t write it down, it does not exist.  One of the worst things that can happen is you dream about something awesome or you’re somewhere and you get a ground breaking idea, and you don’t write it down.  Then you actually convince yourself that when you wake up, get home or after you do this one chore (which normally leads to 5,000), you’ll write it down.  Then what happens…YOU FORGET IT!!! Make it a habit to grab your journal, phone, iPad or  something and jot, jot, jot.  This is one way to keep your spirit open to new and creative ideas; show how much you appreciate the old and current ones. Read more

One…More…Time!

Early in the morning, Jesus stood on the shore, but the disciples did not realize that it was Jesus.    He called out to them,  “Friends, haven’t you any fish?” “No,” they answered.    He said,  “Throw your net on the right side of the boat and you will find some.”  When they did, they were unable to haul the net in because of the large number of fish. (John 21:4-6 NIV)

 

There are a few things to note in these scriptures, but I will write about one in particular. The power of obedience. To be in a place where you feel like nothing’s happening, and even those who walk with you are getting frustrated due to lack of results, can be taxing. Sometimes you’re even asking yourself, “How long will I be in this place?”   Feeling stuck, powerless, and unmotivated, finding strength can be hard when someone comes along, and tells you to try it one…more…time.