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AFTER THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF

It’s February. And while many of us hit our stride in the New Year, there comes a point where you can experience burn out.

The high hopes and ambitions of January 1 may start to feel out of reach.

Yet, as a visionary, a leader, a trailblazer, you can’t afford to slow down. The wrong week of downtime could equate to six months of lost momentum.

 

SO, WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF? 

 

Here are a few ways you can put some POWER behind your new goals:

  1. Set bite sized goals.

Listen. Rome was NOT built in a day and neither are great corporations built over night. The beautiful things in life don’t happen overnight. They happen little by little. Brick by brick. Step by step.

Break down your goals into small, attainable chunks and track your progress.

Health entrepreneur and blogger, Kraig Becker said, “One of the biggest reasons people fail to stick with their resolutions is that they often set really big goals for themselves that are virtually impossible to reach. When they realize later just how difficult it will be to achieve those goals, they get overwhelmed with the daunting task ahead of them and often end up abandoning their efforts altogether.”

So, while it is great to create PUSH goals that will stretch you, the right amount of “push” mixed with the momentum success brings, can help expedite your progress.

 

  1. Check in on your progress regularly

Too many times do we write down our goals and never visit them again. We create our business strategy and then walk away, leaving behind all of the work, collaboration and mental labor we’ve contributed towards building something that matters.

Having the right metrics are critical to your confidence, your ability to move forward and your long-term success. If you are driving without a roadmap, how would you know where you were going? You need a clear vision of what success should look like.

Zip Recruiter said, “Instead of saying that you want to lose 20 pounds over the course of the year, work towards losing five pounds by the end of March. Doing this makes your entire resolution feel a little more attainable.”

 

  1. Don’t do it alone

You’ve heard the saying “Teamwork makes the dream work”! And it’s true. When you band together as a team, you can find the energy and accountability you need as a collective to keep your personal and business goals intact.

Get your team together, set goals and have everyone hold one another accountable. This can help your teams gain the speed and support needed to transcend past success and dig into something new.

An article in The New York Times said, “You may find online support groups and forums (on Facebook or not) full of people who are reaching for the same goal. But real life groups can help too. “

Apps like Slack, Asana and BaseCamp can provide the communications mechanisms your business needs to remain accountable.

 

  1. Celebrate! 

Celebrate your achievements. It can be so easy to focus on the next milestone when you accomplish a goal, but celebrating your goals trains your brain to drive any more towards future goals by providing a sort of mental payoff.

Motivate employees with an end-of-the-month party or special recognition when hitting an important goal. It only helps keep employees engaged and motivated to move forward to higher heights.

The Law of Expectation

If I sow, I reap. If I give, it will be given to me. If I knock, the door will be opened. These are all conditional statements that are used in our everyday lives as we work diligently to get out equal or more than we put in. It’s the law of expectation. Without prompting, l’ve grown accustomed to it. It wasn’t spoken of, it wasn’t intentionally or strategically taught, no one told me what was supposed to happen, I just expected it! So what happens when people don’t get the memo? What happens when the law is broken?

 

Some of us who have experienced the violation of this lawbreaker feel violated and quite disappointed. This disappointment carries over into areas of our lives where we begin to either lower our expectations or have none at all. Are expectations a bad thing? ABSOLUTELY NOT! What makes expectations challenging are when they are unspoken.

 

As I stated earlier, there were some things in my life that I just expected. Notice I said things, not people. You see, when we put expectations on people assuming that they should know what we need and how we need it, we lose every…single…time. This happens all the time in relationships. Lisa thought John should know what she likes, so when John comes in with flowers instead of an Edible Arrangement, the whole week shuts down! Are you guilty? Has this happened to you?

 

I sometimes get the question, “Do I need to repeat my expectations all time?” My answer, “As long as it takes the person to get it.” Expectations can be scary only when we shut ourselves down and are not open to hearing what is being said. Let’s be clear, expectations, especially in relationships, are for you, not the other person.

 

Has a relationship been damaged or bruised because of an unspoken expectation? If so, what can you do to communicate it effectively?

 

 

 

 

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When Hope Seems to Be Distant

Oh the things unspoken regarding the cost of success. Whether it’s success in business, marriage, parenting, or a relationship, there’s a process that must be endured to receive the abundant overflow we so desperately desire. Sometimes going through circumstances and situations, we may feel like our hand is forced and our capacity to make good decisions is limited. Have you ever felt that God wanted you to do something…no, you were CERTAIN that He wanted you to do it, but things didn’t turn out the way you expected? As a matter of fact, they begin to spiral out of control…out of YOUR control. May I offer that when things spiral out of YOUR control, it’s normally an indication that God wants TOTAL control?

 

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How to Refocus in Chaos

It’s no secret that the pull for our attention in our families, our careers and the media is overwhelming. I would even venture to say that it could be chaotic. Most of the time, we suffer the results of fatigue, stress, mental breakdown, sickness, disease, marital problems, wayward children and other things that we prefer not to accept. Before we know it, these things become our reality and we now have to face the fact that our lives are out of control. Unfortunately, we get to this point before we recognize we must do something.

 

I speak to women on different occasions that are on overload. I remember being one of them. I remember doing everything and trying to be everywhere and actually feeling guilty when I couldn’t. I remember feeling like I had control when I really didn’t. I had convinced myself that I had given my life and schedule to God but I still had a tight grip on it. I made decisions that were unhealthy and unbalanced. By the time I had realized this is where I was, everything began to spiral.

 

One thing I have always taken pleasure in is order. The funny thing is, my life was chaotic and lacking order. I didn’t know how to say “No” and I accepted everything people made me feel guilty for not accepting. When my life began to quickly show results of the mayhem I had warmly embraced, I decided that something was going to change. I didn’t say something had to change, I said something was going to change!

 

There is power in pulling back, shutting it down and regrouping. There is power in unplugging from media, cell phones and computers and getting your life together. There is power in having family meetings and saying, “I know what I’ve accepted in the past, but today is a new day!” The problem becomes, staying focused and keeping order. This cannot be a one-time activity, but must be on going. You must be sensitive enough to know when your life is starting to shift in the wrong direction. It cannot be ignored.

 

In order to refocus, there are a lot of things that can be listed, but I will give you a few to start with:

 

  1. Take Care of Yourself – Self-care for women is very difficult because of our desire to take care of others first. We tend to feel guilty for getting a pedicure, massage, sitting quietly, and getting ice cream without the children or husband. Snap out of it! You can’t give them the best you if you’re torn down.
  2. Take Time to Quiet Yourself – There’s so much going on around us to distract us, we must make a demand on ourselves and our minds to sit in quietness and be refreshed.
  3. Take Time to Listen to Yourself – Don’t ignore what your body is saying. If it’s screaming, “I NEED REST!”, then rest. If it’s saying, “I am sick”, see a doctor and stop pushing it to keep going. If there’s something off and you’re not your normal happy jolly self, make a decision to do something about it and stop ignoring it, especially when it’s been weeks since you’ve smiled. Don’t allow yourself to continue functioning without listening to what your body is saying.

 

I could go on, but let’s focus on these three and master them. Please realize that these things are not one-time fixers, they are on-going maintenance. Make the decision today that living in chaos will not be your norm, and you will refocus so that you can live your life abundantly!

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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5 Ways to Bring Your Business to a Networking Event

As business owners, we are always looking for great clients.  And whether you are aware of it or not (hopefully you are), great clients are always looking for great businesses.  It is important to always position yourself as prepared and ready to sell whatever it is you have to offer.  I’d like to provide 5 ways to assist in your preparation:

 

  1. Always be aware of your surroundings.  Never attend an event or function without having your A-game on.  You never know who you’re talking to, so don’t be a slouch.  Be sharp mentally and pay attention.  If the person you are speaking with doesn’t need your business, they know someone who does.
  2. Show Up. Whether you are attending a meeting, networking event or an information session, be sure to come with intention.  Someone in the room has never heard of you and it is your job to make sure they do.  Don’t become a part of the wallpaper.  Walk around, meet and greet, make sure your table is the table to sit at because you’re there!
  3. Look like you want to be there.  If you’re going to a business event, dress in business attire.  Against my better judgment, I recently was invited to an event where the person who invited me told me to dress down.  Well, my dress down is normally what others would consider dressing up, but that’s my personal standard. Anyway, because the person who invited me made it clear on a few occasions not to “dress up”, I didn’t.  When I got there, I knew I had made a mistake.  I felt underdressed and out of place.  Although there were others there that “dressed down”, I still felt that I should’ve gone with my first mind and my standard.  If it’s a business affair, LOOK LIKE YOU WANT TO DO BUSINESS!
  4. Be kind to everyone.  Maybe the Administrative Assistant isn’t your ideal customer, but their boss is! It pays (literally) to be kind to everyone.  Your product/service can get around a room within minutes if your personality meets the right person.
  5. Be prepared.  If you are going to attend a networking event, make sure you know what you’re going to say if someone asks what you do.  Practice in the mirror, in your car, record yourself on the phone and then ask yourself, “Would I do business with me?”

 

Networking events can be very beneficial if properly prepared.  Taking time to do these 5 things can not only put you ahead of the game but also set you apart from your competition.  Get up and get going!

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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This Christmas: Staying Focused on the Main Thing

Christmas is a time of love, family, friends and laughter.  It is a time where all hearts and minds come together for one common goal, to bring the gift of holiday cheer. While there can be an immeasurable amount of excitement that comes with the holiday season and gift exchange, there’s also a feeling of loneliness and depression that comes for those who aren’t as fortunate. It’s important that we keep our eyes, ears and hearts open to those who are in need of not just economic assistance, but also emotional encouragement.  Whether you are alone without a lot of money, or can splurge with family all around, the main thing is giving beyond yourself.  It’s what God did for us when He gave us Jesus.  He gave all that He had.  He sacrificed more than we could ever imagine.  He gave us an example of what real love looked like.  Here are some ideas to help you stay focused on what really matters:   Read more