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AFTER THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF

It’s February. And while many of us hit our stride in the New Year, there comes a point where you can experience burn out.

The high hopes and ambitions of January 1 may start to feel out of reach.

Yet, as a visionary, a leader, a trailblazer, you can’t afford to slow down. The wrong week of downtime could equate to six months of lost momentum.

 

SO, WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WEAR OFF? 

 

Here are a few ways you can put some POWER behind your new goals:

  1. Set bite sized goals.

Listen. Rome was NOT built in a day and neither are great corporations built over night. The beautiful things in life don’t happen overnight. They happen little by little. Brick by brick. Step by step.

Break down your goals into small, attainable chunks and track your progress.

Health entrepreneur and blogger, Kraig Becker said, “One of the biggest reasons people fail to stick with their resolutions is that they often set really big goals for themselves that are virtually impossible to reach. When they realize later just how difficult it will be to achieve those goals, they get overwhelmed with the daunting task ahead of them and often end up abandoning their efforts altogether.”

So, while it is great to create PUSH goals that will stretch you, the right amount of “push” mixed with the momentum success brings, can help expedite your progress.

 

  1. Check in on your progress regularly

Too many times do we write down our goals and never visit them again. We create our business strategy and then walk away, leaving behind all of the work, collaboration and mental labor we’ve contributed towards building something that matters.

Having the right metrics are critical to your confidence, your ability to move forward and your long-term success. If you are driving without a roadmap, how would you know where you were going? You need a clear vision of what success should look like.

Zip Recruiter said, “Instead of saying that you want to lose 20 pounds over the course of the year, work towards losing five pounds by the end of March. Doing this makes your entire resolution feel a little more attainable.”

 

  1. Don’t do it alone

You’ve heard the saying “Teamwork makes the dream work”! And it’s true. When you band together as a team, you can find the energy and accountability you need as a collective to keep your personal and business goals intact.

Get your team together, set goals and have everyone hold one another accountable. This can help your teams gain the speed and support needed to transcend past success and dig into something new.

An article in The New York Times said, “You may find online support groups and forums (on Facebook or not) full of people who are reaching for the same goal. But real life groups can help too. “

Apps like Slack, Asana and BaseCamp can provide the communications mechanisms your business needs to remain accountable.

 

  1. Celebrate! 

Celebrate your achievements. It can be so easy to focus on the next milestone when you accomplish a goal, but celebrating your goals trains your brain to drive any more towards future goals by providing a sort of mental payoff.

Motivate employees with an end-of-the-month party or special recognition when hitting an important goal. It only helps keep employees engaged and motivated to move forward to higher heights.

The Law of Expectation

If I sow, I reap. If I give, it will be given to me. If I knock, the door will be opened. These are all conditional statements that are used in our everyday lives as we work diligently to get out equal or more than we put in. It’s the law of expectation. Without prompting, l’ve grown accustomed to it. It wasn’t spoken of, it wasn’t intentionally or strategically taught, no one told me what was supposed to happen, I just expected it! So what happens when people don’t get the memo? What happens when the law is broken?

 

Some of us who have experienced the violation of this lawbreaker feel violated and quite disappointed. This disappointment carries over into areas of our lives where we begin to either lower our expectations or have none at all. Are expectations a bad thing? ABSOLUTELY NOT! What makes expectations challenging are when they are unspoken.

 

As I stated earlier, there were some things in my life that I just expected. Notice I said things, not people. You see, when we put expectations on people assuming that they should know what we need and how we need it, we lose every…single…time. This happens all the time in relationships. Lisa thought John should know what she likes, so when John comes in with flowers instead of an Edible Arrangement, the whole week shuts down! Are you guilty? Has this happened to you?

 

I sometimes get the question, “Do I need to repeat my expectations all time?” My answer, “As long as it takes the person to get it.” Expectations can be scary only when we shut ourselves down and are not open to hearing what is being said. Let’s be clear, expectations, especially in relationships, are for you, not the other person.

 

Has a relationship been damaged or bruised because of an unspoken expectation? If so, what can you do to communicate it effectively?

 

 

 

 

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Be Intentional About Your NOW

As the months are quickly passing, there’s a very real feeling that shifts us back into the mode of comfortability.  This is around the time when you start walking by your vision boards as if they aren’t there and when you start dismissing your goals because they seem out of reach.  I want to challenge you today to be intentional about your perseverance.  Be intentional about making the goals you have set before you a reality.  As much as our society dictates that we can have what we want when we want it, the truth is, it takes time.  There’s work involved to accomplish your goals, but half of the battle is your mindset. What do you need to do to ensure that your mindset stays aligned with goals?

 

  1. Look at it! Place your vision board and goals in an area where they can be seen EVERY SINGLE DAY!  Mine are on my closet door; I know I have to get into my closet to get clothes EVERYDAY, so there it is.
  2. Speak what you expect.  “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Proverbs 18:21 Most of us don’t accomplish what we want to accomplish because we’ve killed our dream with our words before it even had the chance to make it out of our mouths.  Watch your thoughts, they govern your mouth!
  3. Attend events that support your vision.  I cannot tell you how many opportunities there are for events, online, conference calls and webinars for you to get the support and development you need.  When you show up, it shows how serious you are about your next.
  4. Feed yourself.  If you want to be successful at anything, find books and podcast that will help you get there.  Absolutely nothing grows unless you feed it.  You are simply what you eat!
  5. Evaluate your position.  Every now and again you will need to step back and tweak.  Don’t be intimidated by that process!  Do what you need to do to ensure that you are moving.   Don’t allow stumbling blocks to stop your progress.  Keep it moving!

 

There is no doubt that life will happen.  What makes the difference is how you handle it.  Don’t allow circumstances to take you out.  Be intentional about your NOW because it will affect your later (future).

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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The Benefits of a Mentorship

Mentoring sometimes is a lot more challenging than most people think. It is teaching someone how to embrace their uniqueness and become the best they can be in it. It’s encouraging someone to slowly peel the layers of their past life back, embrace it and understand that it has made them who they are and who they will soon become. Mentoring is a relationship; and just like any other relationship, you have great days and you have not so great days, but you are committed to stay in the game.

 

I have had the pleasure and honor of mentoring quite a few beautiful women in my time. Some of them have been rewarding and others have made me question my call to ever do it again. Either way, there are things that I have mastered and things that I have learned along the way. Mentoring takes a determination that can sometimes be frustrating and tiresome, but the transformation you see in one life can give you the energy needed to press for others.

 

I have invited one of my mentees, Nadine Burroughs, to come and share the value of a mentoring relationship with our readers. This will help give some insight from both perspectives.

 

The Mentee Prospective:

 

There are many benefits of being in a healthy mentoring relationship; however, I will narrow that very broad list down to three cornerstone benefits that I have received over the years.

 

1. Accountability – One of the chief benefits of entering into a mentorship is mutual accountability. It is like a shoring post or undergirding; it upholds you when you feel that you don’t have the wherewithal to endure or journey through. It provides a sustainable partnership that fosters growth and repudiates regression or stagnation. There are times when this can seem extremely inconvenient, it’s usually during those times when we want to do something that is contrary to what we know is right or best. Accountability forces a raising of the bar and deliverance on that which was promised without compromise.
2. Wisdom. Insight. Guidance. – I love being around people, particularly women, who have been there and done that. Mentors typically have had experiences in areas that we have yet to encounter and thereby a greater understanding of how to navigate through those things. I like to call that offering obstacle awareness. The beauty of having a mentor is that you can pull on them at any time for wisdom, insight, and guidance. Mentors are great sounding boards; I run my most random thoughts/ideas by my mentor followed by a one-word question, “Thoughts?” Though I do not always agree with or follow every piece of advice, I do have an appreciation for the objective perspective that’s offered. It gives incentive for me to take a step back and change the lens through which I am viewing the situation.
3. Support and Encouragement – One of the greatest assurances that mentorship provides is that someone is committed to journeying alongside me…even through the trenches. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone on the road to self-discovery or dream actualization and that someone is as enthusiastic and dedicated to the manifestation of the aforementioned as I am. As we, mentees, unmask ourselves, mentors are privy to the good, the bad, and the ugly, yet they are committed all the same reminding us of who we were created to be and all that we’re purposed to do. They continue to breathe words of life into us regardless of the present situation or circumstance. In my experience, unwavering support and encouragement has proven to be life transforming.

 

The benefits of mentorship are invaluable. When both parties are fully engaged and committed, growth in virtually every area of the mentee’s life is inevitable. However, it’s important to note that growth should happen in the mentor as well. As we challenge, promote, and provoke growth in our mentees, we should also seek out growth opportunities. Mentorship is not for the faint of heart; it is far from a walk in the park, but when you are dedicated and determined, you will experience undeniable success and fulfillment.

 

 

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Nadine Burroughs is a prolific writer, passionate speaker, and dedicated mentor. She embodies the attributes of an audacious leader and humble servant. Nadine has a particular motivation to help individuals endure adversity, overcome obstacles and stereotypes and to experience a life of true happiness and freedom.

 

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The Joy of Authenticity

I truly appreciate authentic, real people. I appreciate the fact that no matter where they are, you get the same person every time.  This is a characteristic that is unfortunately becoming rare.  The more our culture dictates what we should look like, dress like, feel like, the farther we are from who we were created to be.  We are challenged with the responsibility to live a life that is not predicated upon anyone else’s beliefs or standards, but our own.

 

I often wonder why so many people, especially children, appear to grow distant and oftentimes turn away from what was seemingly taught by their parents. In speaking to some of them, I’ve learned that many, not all, but many have been deceived by the fairytale of perfection.  Instead of allowing people to live their lives, giving them help along the way, we’ve made them feel that if they aren’t doing it like we do it, it’s wrong.  I have mistakenly sat in the seat of judgment many times, thinking that I had overcome the frailties of life that seemed impossible for me to stumble over…again; however, what I didn’t understand is that I am susceptible just as the one I had placed before me to be judged. Read more

Confronting the Imposter

“I am who I am.” That was my go to response for most things that required me to explain my “actions”.  Everyone pretty much accepted it too. It was my attitude; and I justified it at every turn.  It even had a name. In fact, it had several names. My family and those close to us called it the “Burroughs Attitude” or “Burroughs’ Scorn” and my friends identified it as “Nadine being Nadine”.  I was branded and I accepted it. I took ownership of it. I protected it. After all, it was me!

 

Instead of accepting my “I am who I am…get with it or get lost” attitude. I wish someone would have responded, “Yes. But, who are you?”  That simple [yet complex] question could have rocked my world.  It could have catapulted me to the road of authentic self discovery.  You see, although I would say “I am who I am”, I actually had no clue as to who I was. Not only that, I was completeIy oblivious to who I was created to be. I was only acquainted with who I was conditioned to be. And even that self, I couldn’t articulate. Read more