There is something to be said about a woman who can enter a room and command the atmosphere. There’s even more to be said when she opens her mouth and speaks with authority. We can’t stop talking even after she leaves because she has not only set the atmosphere and spoken with wisdom, but she has left an imprint on everyone who was in her presence. This is a woman with an exceptional presence. Most people will think that it has something to do with her outer appearance, and although that’s true to an extent, it’s only part of the whole.
I’d like to offer three things that I believe are a huge factor in having an exceptional presence!
- Take notice of who’s around you – compliment a look, speak to their child, say something kind to brighten their day! There’s so much negativity going on in the world today, sometimes people just need a good word of hope.
- Take time to correct – when something isn’t right, don’t be afraid to say it; be sure to say it with grace and humility. Correction requires boldness, but it also requires sensitivity to the situation and the atmosphere. No one wants to be associated with the angry woman with a chip on her shoulder. When done properly, correction inevitably produces growth.
- Take time to listen – this is a hard one when you have a good defensive statement prepared! My girlfriends and I are guilty of talking over one another as we move from one subject to the next, without smooth transition points. In our excitement to get our words in (partially so we won’t forget them), we must learn to exercise our listening skills. Good talkers are a dime a dozen, great listeners are a rarity.
Exercising these three ideas may be a little difficult at first, but when you take it piece by piece and become intentional, it becomes a part of who you are. When you intentionally stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone, you surpass being great and open yourself up to being EXCEPTIONAL!
Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.
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