5 Reasons You Can’t Give Up on Your Dreams!

The moment you start settling is the moment compromise sets in.  It can be a difficult road when you know you are supposed to be somewhere in life and just can’t seem to get there; can’t get breakthrough.  There are moments when it seems easier to just quit.  Think about this:

 

8 out of 10 people give up in pursing their dreams

 

That means that only 2 people stayed in the fight.  Only 2 people thought it was worth aggressively pursuing.  Only 2 people realized what was at stake.  I want to give you 5 reasons why you can’t give up.  Not reasons why you shouldn’t, but reasons why you can’t.  Some people will read this and say, “I already know that”, some will say, “Well she just doesn’t know about my that” and some will say, “That’s it!”  Which one are you?

 

  1. You owe it to God – He gave you everything you have to get what you need.
  2. You owe it to yourself – Stop being so hard on yourself that you can’t move from your past without carrying it into your future
  3. You owe it to your family – not just your immediate family, but the legacy/generation that comes after you
  4. You owe it to the people who haven’t made it where you are – Everybody needs somebody to teach them; someone who took the risk and didn’t allow fear to hold them back
  5. You owe it to the people who need you where you’re going – The top is a lonely place.  Someone who is already there needs to pour into you what they have so that their legacy will continue.  Don’t try to beat them, join them!

 

I heard Doreen Rainey say something the other day that really settled in me.  She said, “If you want a breakthrough, you’ve got to be willing to breakdown.”  Sounds simple enough, but I realized how much I had been trying to stay built up because  I thought breaking down was a sign of weakness.  Let me help you, breaking down is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength!

 

When you recognize that your dreams are not a credit, but a debt owed, you will make whatever sacrifices necessary to pay them off!

 

BE BOLD, BE COURAGEOUS, DREAM BIG and LIVE IT!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

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Understanding the Seasons

A couple of months ago, I attended a conference and the speaker said something that I will not forget.  He said, “Every season is not harvest season.”  That very simple sentence was so impactful!  It’s as if I could suddenly understand everything that was going on in my life through this one sentence.  I, like so many others, had resolved that if something wasn’t happening within the next 24hrs as a result to what I had done the day before, I had failed.  This mindset is accepted in a number of areas including addictions, weight loss and healing.  Though we would like to convince ourselves that what we sow, we will reap in the same hour, it doesn’t exactly happen that way.

 

There are moments when you will feel as an entrepreneur, as a businesswoman, as a mother, as a wife, that your good enough is not enough.  You’ll feel like you are spinning your wheels going in a complete circle and not seeing anything close to your desired results.  Do you stop?  Do you switch and do something else?  Do you keep moving?  Well, stopping should never be an option; only tweaking and rebuilding.  Doing something else never solves the problem if you haven’t dealt with the common denominator – you.  Whether you’re studying for an accreditation exam or certifying your business in its industry, WORK is always behind the process.

 

Always know whether you are cultivating or planting.  When you’re cultivating, you are preparing land.  You are educating yourself, attending workshops, seminars, and conferences to sharpen your skillset.  Although these things are important for this season, it is something that should be happening on a continual basis.  Planting means you are sowing.  You are putting seeds in the ground expecting something to come back to you.  You are probably wondering if these seasons can happen simultaneously.  Absolutely!  You just have to be wise enough to identify which one you are in.

 

Harvest time is the time that we all look forward to!  It’s the time when you appreciate everything you’ve been doing, understanding that it was not in vain.  The feelings of wanting to give up have no space here as you are open and ready to receive.  What most people don’t mention is that what you do in cultivating and planting seasons, whether good or bad, you will reap.  The season changes, the principle does not.

 

Whichever season you are in, I want to encourage you to recognize it, embrace it and use your energy to be effective in it.  You will soon understand that the bitter cold of winter doesn’t last forever, the scorching heat of summer must come to an end, the foliage of fall soon blows away and the beauty of spring is only temporary.  Whether you want them to happen or not, they will happen, the question is, how will you prepare?

 

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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Excellence Uncompromised

In today’s society, it is easy to become a mediocre person.  Sometimes there’s even ridicule when a person goes over and beyond what everyone around them is doing.  They are said to be “brown nosing” or “kissing up”. Let’s face it, it can be challenging to truly stand out and be different.  If you’re not going in the same direction everyone else is, you are considered more of an outcast than anything. Saying words like, “That’s good enough”, “It’ll do” and “Oh well, they’ll just have to accept this” can lead to a drastic mental shift. You start believing this in not only one situation but it becomes acceptable in others; it begins to overflow.

 

Today is the day I give you permission to be uncompromising.  I give you permission to stand when no one else is standing, to believe when no one else will, to fight when every one else has fallen back.  This is excellence uncompromised.  Everyone doesn’t have the strength or character to go against the grain.  Just as you have purposed in yourself to create a better and more productive life, so you will have if you don’t compromise.

 

When excellence is a part of who you are, there’s something inside of you that can’t seem to rest with mediocrity.  There’s something inside of you that becomes restless when you hear the words above; you just can’t seem to settle.  Excellence doesn’t operate in arrogant, full of “I told you so” language, but excellence has a presence in a quiet room. Excellence is molded and perfected behind closed doors and shows up prepared and is recognized in public.

 

It only takes one moment, one response, one answer and one action to change the game.  Are you willing to step out of the ordinary into the extraordinary?  Don’t be mediocre. Live in excellence…uncompromised.  Let everything you do and every area of your life be saturated in excellence and you will enjoy the fruit it produces!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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The Pleasure of Comfortability…Not So Much

I have to honestly admit, when I’m in my comfort zone, it is absolutely the best place ever.  It’s my place of refuge and solace. It’s the place where there is no wrong and everything is good. I love doing the things that support my comfortability as well. Things such as, not pushing myself too hard when an opportunity arises and I have to go above and beyond my norm to pay for registration or make arrangements for transportation. Although it may be something new and exciting, learning something new can intimidate me. I mean, what if I can’t get it? I am perfectly okay if someone tells me “No” because maybe it just wasn’t meant to be or it’s just not my time. I am so used to others doing well and better than me, that I’ve come to grips with the fact that God just doesn’t want me to live an abundant life. Everything around me is crazy, but I just accept it as my normal because that’s what I’m use to. As a matter of fact, things have been like they are for so long in my life, I don’t know what “stretching myself” means. I have just accepted who I am. This is just me and no one should try to change me because I’ve been like this forever!

 

Have you ever found yourself in this place of comfortability? It’s actually conformability. It’s when you have become so engrained with your situation and culture around you that you’ve become a part of it. It’s when you’ve accepted the status quo and instead of working to achieve, you’ve agreed to stay in the same situation with nothing to gain. Let’s play the “what if” game:
What if you got up out of the bed and did something?
What if you learned a skill or trade that you thought you could never learn?
What if you sacrificed and went to that conference that you said you couldn’t afford?
What if you decided that you were going to do something different so you accepted the job out of state?
What if you took the risk and bought the house, car, office building that you’ve been waiting for for years?
What if you decided to go ahead and get married to the man that wants to do right by you and who loves you with everything he has?
What if you took that college course to get closer to getting your degree?
What if you took a moment to sponsor a child whether local or overseas?
What if you said “yes” to an opportunity that you would have otherwise said “no” to.
What if you made the decision that you were going to live your life and LOVE it!

 

I could have gone on with example after example of how we’ve “conformed” instead of “transformed”. You see, until our thoughts are lined up with our actions, nothing else matters. Is what you are comfortable with worth losing your victory? Comfort is compromise and wherever you compromise, you become stagnant. Is there any pleasure in staying comfortable? Not so much!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach, and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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Be Intentional About Your NOW

As the months are quickly passing, there’s a very real feeling that shifts us back into the mode of comfortability.  This is around the time when you start walking by your vision boards as if they aren’t there and when you start dismissing your goals because they seem out of reach.  I want to challenge you today to be intentional about your perseverance.  Be intentional about making the goals you have set before you a reality.  As much as our society dictates that we can have what we want when we want it, the truth is, it takes time.  There’s work involved to accomplish your goals, but half of the battle is your mindset. What do you need to do to ensure that your mindset stays aligned with goals?

 

  1. Look at it! Place your vision board and goals in an area where they can be seen EVERY SINGLE DAY!  Mine are on my closet door; I know I have to get into my closet to get clothes EVERYDAY, so there it is.
  2. Speak what you expect.  “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Proverbs 18:21 Most of us don’t accomplish what we want to accomplish because we’ve killed our dream with our words before it even had the chance to make it out of our mouths.  Watch your thoughts, they govern your mouth!
  3. Attend events that support your vision.  I cannot tell you how many opportunities there are for events, online, conference calls and webinars for you to get the support and development you need.  When you show up, it shows how serious you are about your next.
  4. Feed yourself.  If you want to be successful at anything, find books and podcast that will help you get there.  Absolutely nothing grows unless you feed it.  You are simply what you eat!
  5. Evaluate your position.  Every now and again you will need to step back and tweak.  Don’t be intimidated by that process!  Do what you need to do to ensure that you are moving.   Don’t allow stumbling blocks to stop your progress.  Keep it moving!

 

There is no doubt that life will happen.  What makes the difference is how you handle it.  Don’t allow circumstances to take you out.  Be intentional about your NOW because it will affect your later (future).

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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The Extra Mile that Leads Somewhere

Talking with my son about his grades as a senior who is three months away from graduation and has already signed a letter of intent to play football is like talking to a brick wall.  Senioritis is in full effect and he is already looking ahead to his future out of our house, in his own space. While his next sounds great and is definitely an accomplishment to be celebrated, it is imperative that we do not neglect or overlook the fact that he still has three more months to finish high school.  Looking ahead too soon can cause him to get sloppy and lose focus on what’s needed to meet and master his graduation requirements. Read more

5 Ways to Bring Your Business to a Networking Event

As business owners, we are always looking for great clients.  And whether you are aware of it or not (hopefully you are), great clients are always looking for great businesses.  It is important to always position yourself as prepared and ready to sell whatever it is you have to offer.  I’d like to provide 5 ways to assist in your preparation:

 

  1. Always be aware of your surroundings.  Never attend an event or function without having your A-game on.  You never know who you’re talking to, so don’t be a slouch.  Be sharp mentally and pay attention.  If the person you are speaking with doesn’t need your business, they know someone who does.
  2. Show Up. Whether you are attending a meeting, networking event or an information session, be sure to come with intention.  Someone in the room has never heard of you and it is your job to make sure they do.  Don’t become a part of the wallpaper.  Walk around, meet and greet, make sure your table is the table to sit at because you’re there!
  3. Look like you want to be there.  If you’re going to a business event, dress in business attire.  Against my better judgment, I recently was invited to an event where the person who invited me told me to dress down.  Well, my dress down is normally what others would consider dressing up, but that’s my personal standard. Anyway, because the person who invited me made it clear on a few occasions not to “dress up”, I didn’t.  When I got there, I knew I had made a mistake.  I felt underdressed and out of place.  Although there were others there that “dressed down”, I still felt that I should’ve gone with my first mind and my standard.  If it’s a business affair, LOOK LIKE YOU WANT TO DO BUSINESS!
  4. Be kind to everyone.  Maybe the Administrative Assistant isn’t your ideal customer, but their boss is! It pays (literally) to be kind to everyone.  Your product/service can get around a room within minutes if your personality meets the right person.
  5. Be prepared.  If you are going to attend a networking event, make sure you know what you’re going to say if someone asks what you do.  Practice in the mirror, in your car, record yourself on the phone and then ask yourself, “Would I do business with me?”

 

Networking events can be very beneficial if properly prepared.  Taking time to do these 5 things can not only put you ahead of the game but also set you apart from your competition.  Get up and get going!

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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5 Ways How To Tell You Love What You Do

You can be passionate about something, but let’s face it, after a while passion can burn out and isn’t enough to sustain you.  The fire that was once lit can be quenched; however, loving what you do is different.  It’s not predicated upon feelings, nor the support of other people.  It has the power to stand on its own.  Here are 5 ways you can tell you love what you do: Read more

The Process of Pruning

My daughter needed to get her ends trimmed.  She was so upset that a couple of inches had to be cut off.  We went out of town and the whole time she complained about how short her hair was.  After a while, I told her that she was really overdoing it and needed to be okay with her hair trim.  I told her that in order for her hair to grow, it was necessary to trim her ends.

 

I often wonder how many of us have the same thought process as my daughter did.  We would rather walk around underdeveloped and have the appearance of looking good and healthy, but we’re really not.  As a matter of fact, we’re okay with not cutting off what needs to be cut because it takes away from the perception that others have of us.  We talk about how much we want to grow, but are not willing to do what is necessary to do it. We are not willing to make the sacrifices that need to be made, nor go through the process that it entails, realizing that those sacrifices lead to healthier, better and stronger lives.

 

*Pruning: to rid or clear of (anything superfluous or undesirable)

Pruning is common practice in orchard and vineyard management for the improvement of flowering and fruiting.  Incorrect pruning can cause flower and fruit loss and leave the plant weak and vulnerable to disease or insect damage

 

There is no doubt pruning is crucial.  It is what we MUST do to experience change not only for ourselves, but for those we refuse to let go of.

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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The Benefits of a Mentorship

Mentoring sometimes is a lot more challenging than most people think. It is teaching someone how to embrace their uniqueness and become the best they can be in it. It’s encouraging someone to slowly peel the layers of their past life back, embrace it and understand that it has made them who they are and who they will soon become. Mentoring is a relationship; and just like any other relationship, you have great days and you have not so great days, but you are committed to stay in the game.

 

I have had the pleasure and honor of mentoring quite a few beautiful women in my time. Some of them have been rewarding and others have made me question my call to ever do it again. Either way, there are things that I have mastered and things that I have learned along the way. Mentoring takes a determination that can sometimes be frustrating and tiresome, but the transformation you see in one life can give you the energy needed to press for others.

 

I have invited one of my mentees, Nadine Burroughs, to come and share the value of a mentoring relationship with our readers. This will help give some insight from both perspectives.

 

The Mentee Prospective:

 

There are many benefits of being in a healthy mentoring relationship; however, I will narrow that very broad list down to three cornerstone benefits that I have received over the years.

 

1. Accountability – One of the chief benefits of entering into a mentorship is mutual accountability. It is like a shoring post or undergirding; it upholds you when you feel that you don’t have the wherewithal to endure or journey through. It provides a sustainable partnership that fosters growth and repudiates regression or stagnation. There are times when this can seem extremely inconvenient, it’s usually during those times when we want to do something that is contrary to what we know is right or best. Accountability forces a raising of the bar and deliverance on that which was promised without compromise.
2. Wisdom. Insight. Guidance. – I love being around people, particularly women, who have been there and done that. Mentors typically have had experiences in areas that we have yet to encounter and thereby a greater understanding of how to navigate through those things. I like to call that offering obstacle awareness. The beauty of having a mentor is that you can pull on them at any time for wisdom, insight, and guidance. Mentors are great sounding boards; I run my most random thoughts/ideas by my mentor followed by a one-word question, “Thoughts?” Though I do not always agree with or follow every piece of advice, I do have an appreciation for the objective perspective that’s offered. It gives incentive for me to take a step back and change the lens through which I am viewing the situation.
3. Support and Encouragement – One of the greatest assurances that mentorship provides is that someone is committed to journeying alongside me…even through the trenches. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone on the road to self-discovery or dream actualization and that someone is as enthusiastic and dedicated to the manifestation of the aforementioned as I am. As we, mentees, unmask ourselves, mentors are privy to the good, the bad, and the ugly, yet they are committed all the same reminding us of who we were created to be and all that we’re purposed to do. They continue to breathe words of life into us regardless of the present situation or circumstance. In my experience, unwavering support and encouragement has proven to be life transforming.

 

The benefits of mentorship are invaluable. When both parties are fully engaged and committed, growth in virtually every area of the mentee’s life is inevitable. However, it’s important to note that growth should happen in the mentor as well. As we challenge, promote, and provoke growth in our mentees, we should also seek out growth opportunities. Mentorship is not for the faint of heart; it is far from a walk in the park, but when you are dedicated and determined, you will experience undeniable success and fulfillment.

 

 

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Nadine Burroughs is a prolific writer, passionate speaker, and dedicated mentor. She embodies the attributes of an audacious leader and humble servant. Nadine has a particular motivation to help individuals endure adversity, overcome obstacles and stereotypes and to experience a life of true happiness and freedom.

 

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