Excellence Uncompromised

In today’s society, it is easy to become a mediocre person.  Sometimes there’s even ridicule when a person goes over and beyond what everyone around them is doing.  They are said to be “brown nosing” or “kissing up”. Let’s face it, it can be challenging to truly stand out and be different.  If you’re not going in the same direction everyone else is, you are considered more of an outcast than anything. Saying words like, “That’s good enough”, “It’ll do” and “Oh well, they’ll just have to accept this” can lead to a drastic mental shift. You start believing this in not only one situation but it becomes acceptable in others; it begins to overflow.

 

Today is the day I give you permission to be uncompromising.  I give you permission to stand when no one else is standing, to believe when no one else will, to fight when every one else has fallen back.  This is excellence uncompromised.  Everyone doesn’t have the strength or character to go against the grain.  Just as you have purposed in yourself to create a better and more productive life, so you will have if you don’t compromise.

 

When excellence is a part of who you are, there’s something inside of you that can’t seem to rest with mediocrity.  There’s something inside of you that becomes restless when you hear the words above; you just can’t seem to settle.  Excellence doesn’t operate in arrogant, full of “I told you so” language, but excellence has a presence in a quiet room. Excellence is molded and perfected behind closed doors and shows up prepared and is recognized in public.

 

It only takes one moment, one response, one answer and one action to change the game.  Are you willing to step out of the ordinary into the extraordinary?  Don’t be mediocre. Live in excellence…uncompromised.  Let everything you do and every area of your life be saturated in excellence and you will enjoy the fruit it produces!

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

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Be Intentional About Your NOW

As the months are quickly passing, there’s a very real feeling that shifts us back into the mode of comfortability.  This is around the time when you start walking by your vision boards as if they aren’t there and when you start dismissing your goals because they seem out of reach.  I want to challenge you today to be intentional about your perseverance.  Be intentional about making the goals you have set before you a reality.  As much as our society dictates that we can have what we want when we want it, the truth is, it takes time.  There’s work involved to accomplish your goals, but half of the battle is your mindset. What do you need to do to ensure that your mindset stays aligned with goals?

 

  1. Look at it! Place your vision board and goals in an area where they can be seen EVERY SINGLE DAY!  Mine are on my closet door; I know I have to get into my closet to get clothes EVERYDAY, so there it is.
  2. Speak what you expect.  “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Proverbs 18:21 Most of us don’t accomplish what we want to accomplish because we’ve killed our dream with our words before it even had the chance to make it out of our mouths.  Watch your thoughts, they govern your mouth!
  3. Attend events that support your vision.  I cannot tell you how many opportunities there are for events, online, conference calls and webinars for you to get the support and development you need.  When you show up, it shows how serious you are about your next.
  4. Feed yourself.  If you want to be successful at anything, find books and podcast that will help you get there.  Absolutely nothing grows unless you feed it.  You are simply what you eat!
  5. Evaluate your position.  Every now and again you will need to step back and tweak.  Don’t be intimidated by that process!  Do what you need to do to ensure that you are moving.   Don’t allow stumbling blocks to stop your progress.  Keep it moving!

 

There is no doubt that life will happen.  What makes the difference is how you handle it.  Don’t allow circumstances to take you out.  Be intentional about your NOW because it will affect your later (future).

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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The Importance of Self-Care

I am a recovering addict of busyness.  The high of running around like a chicken with my head cut off just empowered me…or so I thought.  Everyday is a struggle for many women to sit and think in silence.  Normally, if our homes are quiet, it’s because we think the children are somewhere doing something they are not supposed to be doing.  We become validated by our busyness and qualified to be the mother of all mothers and the woman who has it all.  Can I challenge that today?  Can I tell you that busyness does not validate who you are, but rather affirms your need to feel needed.  I believe the word for that is codependent.

 

We live in a society that makes millions of dollars by stimulating our brains constantly.  We even find ourselves passing down this disease of busyness by keeping our children busy so that they can stay out of trouble.  Now, let me say this, although I am a fan of extra curricular activities, as my child is in one, I am also a fan of moderation and keeping things in perspective. Long gone are the days of running from one event to another, while feeding my child chicken nuggets on the run – although in some cases this must be acceptable!  I am validated and affirmed by not only managing my time, but most of all, by managing me.

 

While caring for family and anyone who has value in your life is important, maintaining care for yourself is even more so.  I want to encourage all women who are mothers, wives, single, entrepreneurs, women in business, and stay at home moms alike to find time for you.  What we often don’t realize is when this need [self-care] is dismissed as being “selfish”, our families, friends and love ones are the ones who suffer.  Here are a few things you can do to help take care of YOU:

 

  1. Nap – They are not just for kids.
  2. Sit in silence – Thinking about nothing can be refreshing.
  3. Turn off your cell phone – (Gasp!) Yes, you can actually turn it off and on!
  4. Say “No” – This two letter word can be the most powerful word you ever learn to speak.
  5. Breathe deeply – Not the one you do when people have gotten on your last nerve, but the one that brings solace.

 

As you read these 5 things, it’s important to note that they are all free!  They all require one thing, the effort of the woman reading this blog.  Take time for you, the people who are around you will appreciate you for it.

 

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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The Extra Mile that Leads Somewhere

Talking with my son about his grades as a senior who is three months away from graduation and has already signed a letter of intent to play football is like talking to a brick wall.  Senioritis is in full effect and he is already looking ahead to his future out of our house, in his own space. While his next sounds great and is definitely an accomplishment to be celebrated, it is imperative that we do not neglect or overlook the fact that he still has three more months to finish high school.  Looking ahead too soon can cause him to get sloppy and lose focus on what’s needed to meet and master his graduation requirements. Read more

5 Ways to Bring Your Business to a Networking Event

As business owners, we are always looking for great clients.  And whether you are aware of it or not (hopefully you are), great clients are always looking for great businesses.  It is important to always position yourself as prepared and ready to sell whatever it is you have to offer.  I’d like to provide 5 ways to assist in your preparation:

 

  1. Always be aware of your surroundings.  Never attend an event or function without having your A-game on.  You never know who you’re talking to, so don’t be a slouch.  Be sharp mentally and pay attention.  If the person you are speaking with doesn’t need your business, they know someone who does.
  2. Show Up. Whether you are attending a meeting, networking event or an information session, be sure to come with intention.  Someone in the room has never heard of you and it is your job to make sure they do.  Don’t become a part of the wallpaper.  Walk around, meet and greet, make sure your table is the table to sit at because you’re there!
  3. Look like you want to be there.  If you’re going to a business event, dress in business attire.  Against my better judgment, I recently was invited to an event where the person who invited me told me to dress down.  Well, my dress down is normally what others would consider dressing up, but that’s my personal standard. Anyway, because the person who invited me made it clear on a few occasions not to “dress up”, I didn’t.  When I got there, I knew I had made a mistake.  I felt underdressed and out of place.  Although there were others there that “dressed down”, I still felt that I should’ve gone with my first mind and my standard.  If it’s a business affair, LOOK LIKE YOU WANT TO DO BUSINESS!
  4. Be kind to everyone.  Maybe the Administrative Assistant isn’t your ideal customer, but their boss is! It pays (literally) to be kind to everyone.  Your product/service can get around a room within minutes if your personality meets the right person.
  5. Be prepared.  If you are going to attend a networking event, make sure you know what you’re going to say if someone asks what you do.  Practice in the mirror, in your car, record yourself on the phone and then ask yourself, “Would I do business with me?”

 

Networking events can be very beneficial if properly prepared.  Taking time to do these 5 things can not only put you ahead of the game but also set you apart from your competition.  Get up and get going!

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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5 Ways How To Tell You Love What You Do

You can be passionate about something, but let’s face it, after a while passion can burn out and isn’t enough to sustain you.  The fire that was once lit can be quenched; however, loving what you do is different.  It’s not predicated upon feelings, nor the support of other people.  It has the power to stand on its own.  Here are 5 ways you can tell you love what you do: Read more

The Process of Pruning

My daughter needed to get her ends trimmed.  She was so upset that a couple of inches had to be cut off.  We went out of town and the whole time she complained about how short her hair was.  After a while, I told her that she was really overdoing it and needed to be okay with her hair trim.  I told her that in order for her hair to grow, it was necessary to trim her ends.

 

I often wonder how many of us have the same thought process as my daughter did.  We would rather walk around underdeveloped and have the appearance of looking good and healthy, but we’re really not.  As a matter of fact, we’re okay with not cutting off what needs to be cut because it takes away from the perception that others have of us.  We talk about how much we want to grow, but are not willing to do what is necessary to do it. We are not willing to make the sacrifices that need to be made, nor go through the process that it entails, realizing that those sacrifices lead to healthier, better and stronger lives.

 

*Pruning: to rid or clear of (anything superfluous or undesirable)

Pruning is common practice in orchard and vineyard management for the improvement of flowering and fruiting.  Incorrect pruning can cause flower and fruit loss and leave the plant weak and vulnerable to disease or insect damage

 

There is no doubt pruning is crucial.  It is what we MUST do to experience change not only for ourselves, but for those we refuse to let go of.

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Click here to schedule your Fresh Perspective Life Coaching session with SK!

 

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The Benefits of a Mentorship

Mentoring sometimes is a lot more challenging than most people think. It is teaching someone how to embrace their uniqueness and become the best they can be in it. It’s encouraging someone to slowly peel the layers of their past life back, embrace it and understand that it has made them who they are and who they will soon become. Mentoring is a relationship; and just like any other relationship, you have great days and you have not so great days, but you are committed to stay in the game.

 

I have had the pleasure and honor of mentoring quite a few beautiful women in my time. Some of them have been rewarding and others have made me question my call to ever do it again. Either way, there are things that I have mastered and things that I have learned along the way. Mentoring takes a determination that can sometimes be frustrating and tiresome, but the transformation you see in one life can give you the energy needed to press for others.

 

I have invited one of my mentees, Nadine Burroughs, to come and share the value of a mentoring relationship with our readers. This will help give some insight from both perspectives.

 

The Mentee Prospective:

 

There are many benefits of being in a healthy mentoring relationship; however, I will narrow that very broad list down to three cornerstone benefits that I have received over the years.

 

1. Accountability – One of the chief benefits of entering into a mentorship is mutual accountability. It is like a shoring post or undergirding; it upholds you when you feel that you don’t have the wherewithal to endure or journey through. It provides a sustainable partnership that fosters growth and repudiates regression or stagnation. There are times when this can seem extremely inconvenient, it’s usually during those times when we want to do something that is contrary to what we know is right or best. Accountability forces a raising of the bar and deliverance on that which was promised without compromise.
2. Wisdom. Insight. Guidance. – I love being around people, particularly women, who have been there and done that. Mentors typically have had experiences in areas that we have yet to encounter and thereby a greater understanding of how to navigate through those things. I like to call that offering obstacle awareness. The beauty of having a mentor is that you can pull on them at any time for wisdom, insight, and guidance. Mentors are great sounding boards; I run my most random thoughts/ideas by my mentor followed by a one-word question, “Thoughts?” Though I do not always agree with or follow every piece of advice, I do have an appreciation for the objective perspective that’s offered. It gives incentive for me to take a step back and change the lens through which I am viewing the situation.
3. Support and Encouragement – One of the greatest assurances that mentorship provides is that someone is committed to journeying alongside me…even through the trenches. It’s comforting to know that I am not alone on the road to self-discovery or dream actualization and that someone is as enthusiastic and dedicated to the manifestation of the aforementioned as I am. As we, mentees, unmask ourselves, mentors are privy to the good, the bad, and the ugly, yet they are committed all the same reminding us of who we were created to be and all that we’re purposed to do. They continue to breathe words of life into us regardless of the present situation or circumstance. In my experience, unwavering support and encouragement has proven to be life transforming.

 

The benefits of mentorship are invaluable. When both parties are fully engaged and committed, growth in virtually every area of the mentee’s life is inevitable. However, it’s important to note that growth should happen in the mentor as well. As we challenge, promote, and provoke growth in our mentees, we should also seek out growth opportunities. Mentorship is not for the faint of heart; it is far from a walk in the park, but when you are dedicated and determined, you will experience undeniable success and fulfillment.

 

 

 

 

 

Kashonna Holland is a Speaker, Life Coach and Writer. With contagious energy, a vibrant smile, and straightforward message, Kashonna passionately and purposefully journeys alongside women from the point of breaking through the process of breakthrough – personally, professionally, and spiritually.

 

Nadine Burroughs is a prolific writer, passionate speaker, and dedicated mentor. She embodies the attributes of an audacious leader and humble servant. Nadine has a particular motivation to help individuals endure adversity, overcome obstacles and stereotypes and to experience a life of true happiness and freedom.

 

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The Dangers of Rubbernecking

Have you ever been in traffic and once you got to the breaking point, you realized it’s because the people in front of you were busy looking at something that happened on the other side?  The red lights are glaring, and we are slowly making it to our destination because someone ahead of us is rubbernecking.  They are too busy looking at cars going in a different direction, and because they have made that their focus, they have held everyone else up.

 

How many of us are finding ourselves in that same situation?  We are on the road to success, heading in a direction of purpose, but we get distracted by people who are going in a totally different direction.  We’ve lost sight that people are behind us, depending on our ability to keep up with the flow of what our assignment is.  Read more

3 Ways to Overcome the Desire to Give Up!

One of the easiest things to do in life is to give up. Let’s face it, if something is not going the way we anticipated it to go, it’s easier to just walk away.  It’s why divorce rates are at an all-time high, why some parents chose to walk away from children and why some are overtaken by sickness and disease.  It’s just easier to give up than to fight.

 

Then there are those of us who use the tug of war for our benefit.  What makes us fight for what we want?  What makes us stand even when we don’t want to?  What makes us gird up for battle at the most terrifying moments of our lives?  Two words, a decision. Read more